Need a Less Stressful Holiday Season? 9 Tips to Help

The holidays are meant to be joyful—a time of celebration and connection with loved ones. But too often, we find ourselves wrapped up in attempting perfection, busyness, and never-ending to-do lists, making it easy to miss the true meaning of this season. This year, let’s approach the holidays with simplicity, peace, and intention. Here’s how to enjoy it all without getting caught up in the usual stress.

1. Start Simple, and Make a Plan.

November can bring a sense of being overwhelmed as we realize how close we are to the holiday season. Instead of diving in without a plan, take a few moments to organize your thoughts and set your priorities. Begin with a simple list of what you truly want to focus on for the next two months, then jot down a loose plan. Whether it’s hosting a family dinner, attending a few special events, or setting aside time for loved ones, deciding now will help you manage your energy later.

“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans” (Proverbs 16:3, NIV). Pray over your list, and ask God to help you manage your time, energy, and priorities in a way that brings peace rather than pressure. With His guidance, you can focus on what’s most important and enjoy a holiday season that aligns with His purpose.

2. Focus on What Really Matters.

Holiday advertisements and social media often make us feel like we need a picture-perfect experience, but the heart of the holidays isn’t flawless meals or beautifully decorated homes. It’s relationships, gratitude, and reflecting on God’s goodness. When we let ourselves be pulled by the world’s expectations, we lose sight of the peace God freely offers us.

“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace” (Colossians 3:15a, NIV). Choose that peace by keeping God, family, and gratitude at the center of your holiday season.

3. Let Go of the Need to Be Perfect.

The holiday pressure to make everything “just right” can weigh heavily on you, but here’s a freeing truth: it doesn’t have to be perfect! Life isn’t perfect, and that’s okay. Instead of stressing over every detail, focus on spending quality time with loved ones, making memories, and enjoying time together. Remember, people care more about the time spent together than how polished your holiday décor or meal looks.

Release those unrealistic expectations, and embrace the joy that comes from simply being present with those you care about. Aim for heartfelt moments, not magazine-worthy images!

4. Schedule Quality Time Early.

As December fills up quickly with gatherings, events, and obligations, plan intentional family time now. Prioritize activities that bring joy and connection, such as family game nights, movie marathons, or cookie baking. Scheduling these moments early will help you keep them from getting lost in the holiday shuffle and bring more meaning to your days.

Think of these times as deposits of joy that build a foundation for a peaceful season. Whether it’s making memories with your family or spending quiet moments reflecting on God’s blessings, these moments will carry you through the busy days ahead.

5. Practice Gratitude.

Gratitude has the power to change our entire perspective. Consider creating a gratitude jar, a “thankful wall,” or another visible way to add notes of thankfulness throughout the season. Each note serves as a beautiful reminder of God’s blessings and can help keep the focus on what truly matters.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 

—Philippians 4:8 (NIV) 

Reflecting on what we’re thankful for keeps us grounded and helps us avoid stress. Watching those notes of gratitude build up through the season will be a visual reminder of God’s abundant goodness in our lives.

6. Declutter and Prep Your Home in Stages.

A clutter-free home can bring clarity and peace to our hearts, especially as we prepare for the holidays. Instead of trying to tackle your entire home all at once, take it step by step. Choose one room or space each week, and by Thanksgiving, your home will be ready for guests and festive gatherings. A welcoming space makes it easier to find joy in the season and allows you to focus on time with family and friends.

Decluttering your home is also a way to prepare your spirit—making space for peace and removing the unnecessary to focus on what’s truly important.

7. Simplify Gift Giving.

While giving gifts is a beautiful tradition, the pressure to overbuy can make it stressful. This year, consider focusing on thoughtful, meaningful gifts instead of checking off a long list. Intentional gifts that come from the heart can carry more meaning than a pile of presents.

Don’t let stress steal the joy from gift giving. Instead, give in a way that blesses both the receiver and your spirit.

8. Take Time to Recharge and Connect with God.

The holiday season can be draining, and it’s easy to put ourselves last. But to truly pour out love and joy, we need to stay filled up! Prioritize your own well-being by taking time to recharge spiritually, physically, and emotionally. Even a few quiet minutes with God each day can bring peace and clarity to our hearts.

“But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed” (Luke 5:16, NIV). Spending time in prayer and worship keeps us grounded, centered, and able to approach each holiday moment with grace. Don’t forget to include self-care in your holiday plans. This investment in yourself will help you give more fully to others.

9. Choose Joy.

Make a choice to go through this season with a joyful heart. When we focus on the positive, stress loses its grip. Reflecting on God’s love and grace can bring calm and joy to even the busiest of days.

“This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it” (Psalm 118:24, ESV). 

Every moment—big or small—can be a chance to find joy and gratitude. Choosing joy can transform your season, making even the busiest times feel more meaningful.

The holidays don’t have to be a chaotic whirlwind. This year, let’s slow down and appreciate the peace and love around us. Focus on the little blessings each day brings. Enjoy time with loved ones, reflect on God’s presence, and welcome grace at every step. Let’s celebrate, connect, and give thanks for the gifts and promises He’s given us.